So I’ve always been a very involved person, I think it started in high school, you name it, I did it. College and grad school was much of the same. I’ve always enjoyed being busy and being surrounded by people who could nurture me as an individual both personally and professionally.

Now, I’m a member of many organizations including my alumni association, numerous business/civic associations, and my Sorority. Lately, everyone is all caught up in “networking”. We’ve all heard the saying, “It’s not what you know, it’s who you know,” but often times I feel like networking is so overrated.

In my experience, at meetings and networking events I go to you meet someone, speak briefly, exchange business cards and never hear from that person again. I usually try to send a brief follow-up email but it never seems to progress. I feel like the only time the networking encounter evolves into more is if the other person is trying to holler. That is all well and good but if I’m trying to get to know you on a professional level, to help me advance my career, I’m not really trying to go out on a date with you. Nor am I interested in a quid pro quo relationship.

I’m sure there has to be a more effective way to meet people but as of now, I’m over the whole “networking” thing. I hoped by networking I’d be able to find a mentor but as of now I’ve had no such luck, any suggestions or tips would be greatly appreciated.