Okay so I’m sure I’m not the only one who has an in-the-meantime or in-between guy. You know a person who is always there for you after your relationship ends. He knows how to play his position and is willing to step back when you’re dating someone else.

Recently, mine has been trying to make his way to the forefront. I remember having the biggest crush on him freshman year in college and when we finally met our sophomore year the sparks flew but of course I had a boyfriend. Since I had a boyfriend and was determined not to cheat on him things went nowhere. At first, he tried anything and everything to get in-between me and my boyfriend, then realize it wasn’t going to happen so he eventually gave up. Since then I’ve dated a lot of guys but the cycle with my in-the-meantime guy has gone on for nearly 10 years.

It’s not that he’s not a great guy, attractive, successful, never been married, no kids and meets all of my qualifications (lol) but for the life of me I just can’t seem to think of him as potential. I always see him strictly as the in-the-meantime guy, someone to take up my time in-between dating other people.

Even as sophomores in college, he’d profess how much he loved me and how we’d get married one day. He still says this every time we talk and always knows the right thing to say at the right time. When I broke up with my most recent ex, guess who was there?

I really wish and want to see him as more but I can’t. I don’t know if it’s because I’ve put him in that category for so long or maybe I’m secretly scared of getting hurt. My friends seem to think there’s a reason why he’s been around for so long and that I should give him a chance.

I would love to hear from others who are in or have been in a similar situation. Any advice/comments on how I should handle this situation would be appreciated.