(For the record I don’t mean “kept” in the way of a concubine)

I was having a conversation the other day with one of my male friends. He kept going on and on about how I was spoiled. Clearly, he has me confused with someone else. His only rationale for saying this was because I’m technically an only child and my parents are successful. I’ll admit they do pretty well for themselves, but I don’t reap any of those benefits. I wish!

After going back and forth with him explaining to him why I’m not spoiled, I finally swayed him to my point of view. Mind you he’s known me since high school (we were in Jack & Jill together), so he really knows me and he especially knows that I’ve always had to work hard for everything that I have. So after all of this we started talking about relationships, the next thing I said caught him totally off guard. I told him I wouldn’t mind being a kept woman.

Of course, he said that I pulled a complete 360 on him because he questioned me on how I could say I’ve worked hard for everything but I wouldn’t mind being a kept woman. In my mind it’s easy. If he had to work as hard as I’ve had to I’m sure he’d understand how I felt, which is burned out. He lived at home until he was 27 and his parents still help him out if he needs anything. Me on the other hand have been working, usually at least two jobs, since my sophomore year in college even though I was on a full academic scholarship to pay to live off-campus, maintenance on my car, and to not have to depend on my parents for money and to this day I still depend on no one but myself to pay my bills. Bought my first place & second without their help, while his helped him with his down payment. Must be nice.

But I digress, back to my interest in being a kept woman. Although, I consider myself to be a woman of the new millennium, I’ve never had that I don’t need a man attitude. Of course we do! I’m looking for a head of my household. Don’t get me wrong, I’m by no means a gold digger but I would love to have a man who can be my partner, but he’d also support me and our family. I want to work because I choose to, not because I have to.

After having yet another birthday, makes me realize I’m not getting any younger. Although, I enjoy being single and carefree, I would trade my single life in a heartbeat to be a stay-at-home Mom. Maybe host some dinner parties here and there. I would take the option of being a kept woman any day.