Okay I’ve been accused by some of male bashing. I don’t consider myself a basher of the male species but I have no problem telling others how I feel about the men I encounter. With that out of the way, I’ve been thinking about how men have it so easy.

Whether it’s career-related or dealing with relationships, they have it easy. As it relates to career, men make significantly more than women, even in the same position. According to an article in the Washington Post, in 2007, women who were full-time wage and salary workers earned 80 percent of their male counterpart’s salary. Men don’t have to deal with all of the BS that we do in the workplace. They’re not constantly in competition with other men, it’s not a daily battle for them to have to prove themselves. They don’t have to worry about people of the opposite sex making inappropriate comments or being looked at like a piece of meat.

When it comes to relationships, men have their choice of women. You never hear men talking to each other and say, “There are no good women.” They have an ample selection to choose from. Men rarely just settle for the sake of being in a relationship or even married. Of the guys I know, most of their close friends are married. Truthfully, only one of my close friends is married, and I’m pushing 30. That’s pretty sad.

The men that I’ve encountered all seem to have something in common, Mothers who spoiled them. I’ve always found it interesting in families where there are girls and boys, the girls tend to grow up to be successful, while the boys take a lot longer to mature and all the while the parents allow them to be that way. I can count the number of female friends/associates on one hand that lived at home for some point after college, while I’ve known and still know many men who live(d) at home with their parents for 5-10 years after college. Women would rather struggling to live on their own in hopes of making a life for themselves, while men often have things handed to them. I guess we figure, in these times, we can’t wait on a man to live our lives.

Yet another problem with society. The men have been spoiled for so long that by the time they reach adulthood, they come to expect certain things from women. Recently, I visited an old friend from college and noticed a pile of clothes in his closet, he told me that his Mother still washes his clothes. WTH? His Mother, literally comes to his house, a house he owns by the way, picks up his clothes, takes them to her house to wash and brings them back neatly folded. I wish! I’ve been washing my own clothes since I was in elementary school.

I just wonder why little girls are taught differently. Why were we taught to be so independent? Why were we taught to work hard to achieve our goals? Sometimes, I wish I could just sit back and wait for things to happen, but that wouldn’t be me. It’s been ingrained in me to work hard to get what I want, I wouldn’t know how to live any other way. I really wish men knew how easy they have it.

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