Recently one of my Twitter friends (@SOjdanielle) was tweeting about relationships. I can’t remember exactly what the topic of discussion was but she wrote something about a “Right Guy, Wrong Time” and it immediately stood out.
Have you ever met someone who you thought was absolutely perfect for you, only to find out the two of you were at totally different points in your life? Well, recently this happened to me.
I was dating a guy who I thought was absolutely perfect (even his line name was “Mr. Perfect” if that tells you anything). He’s a couple of years older than me, never married, no kids, physically fit, very attractive, intelligent, has 2 degrees, a lucrative job, and owns property. Plus he comes from a Southern family, parents have been married nearly 40 years, believes in chivalry, all that. We had a lot common and always had fun spending time together.
After dating for a while, being the person I am, I decided to ask him what was up, where did I stand? I’m not one to waste time so I wanted to know. He told me that he was just focusing on his career and not trying to be in a relationship. Sounds like BS, I know, but I gave him the benefit of the doubt because he does have a very high-profile job that requires him to travel at a moments notice and works crazy hours. At first, I was like that’s cool, I was dating other people so it’s whatever. But then I began to think about it, and I wasn’t cool it I wanted more from him. I had already started to put him into a different category beyond just being a friend.
It’s not that I was in a huge rush to take things to the next level, I just rather date someone who is interested in progression, not just standing still. The thought of dating someone who’s not even considering being a relationship turns me off. Truthfully, I think if you really like someone despite what your so-called plans/goals are, you’re going to act on your feelings. I don’t play games so I figured the best thing to do was to leave him alone. Although he had everything going for him and he was how I always pictured my Mr. Right to be, I have a feeling that our paths justhappened to cross at the wrong time. Who knows what the future holds? All I know is I’m not sitting around waiting around for the “right” time to come.