I’m so tired of people who flake out. I’ve always been one of those people who like to plan and organize different things and events because I enjoy it. I’ve done dinner parties, game nights, weekend getaways, and cruises. If I don’t plan it, it’s more than likely not going to happen.
Recently, I planned a going away party for a friend who’s leaving the city to move to Chicago to start business school. Initially, I invited 10 of our mutual friends, only 6 of them RSVPed which was cool. I sent out 4 emails over the course of 2 weeks saying to let me know if they were no longer going to be able to make it.
The day before I get an email from one person saying she’s not going to be able to make it, I don’t know why I thought this time would be any different. Thinking back over the last couple of years, she has backed out of everything I’ve planned for the last two years (except for the weekend getaway to the mountains). She has flaked happy hours, dinners, movies, potlucks, you name it she’s flaked out the day of, or the day before. I don’t even know why I continue to invite her to anything. Whenever she has something, I’m always there to support.
But I digress, the day of the event, I get four emails/texts saying “something came up” or “Looks like I’m not going to be able to make it”. None of us are doctors, we’re not saving lives. Telling me at noon the day of that you’re going to have to work late, doesn’t make much sense to me especially when this wasn’t something planned at the last minute. You knew you committed to coming to our friend’s going away party and that she’s leaving town in a few days, there’s no maybe next time.
What bothers me is I’m a firm believer in my word being my bond. If I say I’m going to do something, I’m going to do it. I’m not one of those people who says I’m going to be somewhere or do something and at the last minute flake out. It just irritates me to no end that people don’t take their word seriously. If you flake out once or twice, I’ll write it off, but those who are repeat offenders just makes me realize what kind of person I’m dealing with, without your word you’re nothing.