I don’t know what it is but I’ve encountered some “extra” people over the past few months, there’s one in particular who continue to rub me the wrong way. If you don’t know what I mean by extra let me explain.


A person who is extra is usually someone who is over the top and shouldn’t be. They are not happy unless they are doing what they can to stand in the spotlight even if they don’t deserve to be there. They say certain things in hopes of gaining attention.


Recently, in one of the organizations I’m a member of, I quickly learned that a new member of our team is what I call extra. She came in with all these grand ideas knowing very little about the organization then got mad when her ideas were shot down. She came up with a few events and was so gung-ho about them she started planning them without going through the proper channels. When I saw her feeble attempt at trying to market the event, I sent her a personal email letting her know that language she was using didn’t sound quite right and offered my assistance in improving it. After all, if I’m a member of an organization I’m not going to let our organization look bad because that makes me look just as bad if I stand around and say nothing.


Long story short, she was offended by my attempt at letting her know that she was not perfect. She’s constantly sending out emails with poor grammar, misspelled words, and run-on sentences. What gets me is in her signature she puts her name and includes the MBA designation after her name. Seriously, who does that? I have one too as do many people these days but I don’t include it in my signature and I especially wouldn’t include it on a non-business related email knowing my use of English is not the best. Including that behind her name just makes her look even worse. Instead of accepting her inadequacy and my attempt to help I decided if she wanted to crash and burn so be it.


Extra people don’t like to be told they are wrong or that something is wrong with them. It takes a certain level of maturity to say “Yes you’re right, I was wrong”. It hard to work with them because they don’t like to accept responsibility for their mistakes. I’m pretty easy going and can get along with most people but if there’s one thing I can’t deal with is a person who can’t or won’t admit they are wrong. It’s not that hard, we all make mistakes. Admit it and move on it’s a simple as that.

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