In 2010, I’ve vowed to be more open-minded when it comes to dating guys who are different from my usual.  Recently, I’ve met a few characters men each quite unique in their own way.  

Guy 1: We talked about the basics like where we’re from, things we like to do, yada yada yada. When the topic of travel came up he said he’d never been outside of the United States and had no real interest in traveling abroad.  I was totally fine with him saying he’d never been out of the country because I don’t know his circumstances, but to flat out say you’re not interesting in going out of the country, that’s a negative.  So when I asked him where he liked to go he said Washington, DC, Baltimore and Columbia, MD.  Umm what those are all within 15 minutes of where you live and grew up?  Seriously, next.

Guy 2: Anyone who knows me, knows that I love food, it’s one of my favorite things. I always felt like you can tell a lot about a person by what they like to eat and what their favorite restaurant is.  So I asked this one guy what his favorite restaurant was and he said The Cheesecake Factory.  I just had to let out a sigh.  I tried to be nice and say, they do have good bread (the brown one) but I’m not a fan of chain restaurants and if a guy suggested going to one for a first date, it wouldn’t happen. 

When you’ve lived in places, typically any metropolitan city, where there are ample places that offer diverse cuisines from the usual American, Italian, and Mexican to those that offer Lebanese, Peruvian, and Turkish, the Cheesecake Factory shouldn’t be your top choice.  I’m sorry.  As long as I can remember I’ve never been a huge fan of chain restaurants because I rather try someplace new and different.  Why always go to the same place, that has the same food, that’s everywhere, and not try anything different?  I say this all the time, I rather to go to some little hole-in-the-wall place that has good food than Olive Garden, TGI Fridays or any of those places.  In fact, many of those places are cheaper than the chains and you have better service.  All I’m saying is if everytime we go out to eat you only order chicken fingers and fries, it’s just not going to work.

Guy 3: Said he doesn’t like when women don’t offer to pay.  Really?  Who says that during an initial conversation?  I can fully understand this if a woman’s been dating a man for a few months and they’ve come to an arrangement where they take turns paying but to just blurt that out in the beginning as one of your pet peeves about dating, signifies to me that you’re cheap.  After that, I don’t remember anything else he had to say.

I’m really trying but one thing I can’t sacrifice is dating someone who is open-minded and willing to try new things.  Don’t get me wrong, I’m not trying to change anyone but I do hope to find someone who is at least open to being creative and can think outside of the box.