So over the last few weeks I’ve reconnected with an ex from college.  He’s always been very supportive of me from the time I was a freshman in the School of Architecture at Florida A&M University until now.  He’s always been an advocate on my behalf and I’ve always appreciated the fact that he genuinely cares for me, not to mention he always tells me I’m beautiful, which I could never get tired of hearing.

I’ve been thinking about why we broke up in the first place.  I was thinking the main reason was because I was young and thought there was so much out there for me to explore.  I didn’t want to be tied down with my first real boyfriend forever.  Then when we were talking I remembered there actually were a few reasons why we broke up. 

One reason was because of his extreme moodiness.  Not that I’m moody, but as the woman if anyone should be moody it should be me.  When he gets in a funk, he has the ability to make everyone else feel like they should be down where he is.  I just can’t take that.  I know not everybody is going to be happy all of the time, but I can’t deal with the constant mood swings, it’s almost scary.

Another reason which became more evident over time was the fact that he’s not a Christian.  I want to say he went to church with me once back in the day and he actually mentioned going to church with me recently but we all know going to church doesn’t constitute being a Christian and vice versa.  Although, he’s always been such a great friend to me, I know there could never be more between us because I believe in being equally yoked especially when it comes to religion. (My post on being equally yoked was one of my most controversial blogs and most commented on) 

While, I’m not a Bible-totting, overly-sanctified Christian, not that there’s anything wrong with that, I do have certain beliefs that I cannot sacrifice.  My partner should have similar beliefs as well as have respect for mine.  I still remember my ex telling me a story about a girl he was dating who was recently born again and he referred to her as a “Jesus Freak”, from then on I think that comment always stayed in the back of my head.  Although we could remain friends, I knew it was never going to progress beyond that.

I’m glad to have had this chance to become reunited with my ex to further affirm what it is I’m looking for and what I’m willing to accept.  I realize the only thing we’re destined to be is friends. 

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