Over the last week, I met two guys and have had some very interesting, but similar conversations. Both of the guys fit into the mold of the usual guys I seem to attract. They’re attractive with a great sense of humor, in their early 30s, have degrees, never been married, no kids, parents are still married, own property and drive a Nissan/Honda. I really don’t understand why every guy I’ve ever met/dated/been in a relationship with drives one of those 2 cars, I find that so strange. But I digress…
Both of the conversations started off with the basic questions then turned into them asking me my age. Truthfully, I don’t care when people ask my age because I have nothing to hide. Besides, I look young but am somewhat of an old-spirit so I tend to throw people off. When I told them I was 29, they both basically said the same thing, “Hmm so you’ll be 30 this year, how do you feel about that?” I told them I’ll be ringing in my 30th in New Orleans this summer and I’m looking forward to it. I also said I was content with my life and that I feel as though I’m where I should be right now. I don’t see the point in falling into the trap of thinking my life will end at 30.
Where did that even come from? When did turning 30 become the end all be all? I guess with the media always pointing out how black women are single and desperate for a man, men think that’s the way all of us are. They think we’re all out looking to grapple onto a man and hold onto him for dear life.
It’s like there’s a stigma about dating women who are 29 because they think we’re all going through this imaginary mid-life crisis and that we’re desperate to get married. While it would be nice to be married with children, I’m not trying to rush into anything. I rather have fun and take my time to find Mr. Right. Truthfully one of my biggest fear is getting divorced. I would feel like such a failure. Not that it’s the end of the world in these days, but I want to find that one true love to spend the rest of my life with.
Yes, I’m 29 and proud of it. I’ve lived a good life so far and I’m able to stay positive because I know the best is yet to come.