The other day, I was having a conversation on Twitter with one of the usual people I chat with. She was talking about how she hadn’t been on a date in 3 years. Yes, THREE years. I was shocked because we’re around the same age, she’s very pretty and seems to have a lot going for her. She said the reason behind it was because she didn’t like casual dating and didn’t want to waste time.
It amazes how so many women think this way and it’s not just Black women. I feel like dating is a necessary evil. In order to find the right one you have to put yourself out there and go on some dates. Over the last year, I’ve definitely gone on my share of both, wonderful and horrible dates. While most amounted to nothing but one-date wonders, another led to dating one guy for a few months. True it didn’t work out but I would’ve never known what could have happened had we’d never gone on that first date.
While, I’m not a fan of dating just for the sake of dating, I feel like it’s something that has to be done. I don’t know any other way of going from meeting a stranger to becoming a couple. Dating is one of the necessary steps required for a relationship to evolve. If there’s another way, please let me know. If not, I’m going to keep doing what I do until something works out.