A friend of mine, who also happens to be an ex, forwarded me an interesting article from The Washington Post written by dating guru Demetria Lucas. To read the article, click here.
For some reason, the old adage about every little girl being made of “sugar and spice and everything nice” popped into my head. Maybe it’s because when I was reading it, it reminded me about another article I read about men loving overly feminine, delicate women. In my experience, this has been true. I’ve always been a girly girl but in the same token I’ve worked hard for everything I have but I’m careful to not give off that “I’m an independent woman” vibe. Men hate that. While I am confident and most would consider to me an independent woman, I make sure not to throw it in mens’ faces, which is a mistake many women, specifically Black women make. I would never begin a conversation talking about my degrees, the property I own or what kind of car I drive because that’s intimidating to men.
I’ve learned over the years that even if a man doesn’t have everything together, he wants to be the provider. What man wants a woman who thinks she’s the man? I have friends who will met a guy and straight off will tell them “I’m a lawyer” or “I have an MBA from Wharton” and wonder why the guys never call or why they never get asked out on dates. These same friends will complain about there not being any good, black men, which we all know isn’t true. Just because you’re not attracting them, doesn’t mean they are not out there. But I digress…
I’m definitely not a dating expert (well I should be after dating my little heart out for the last year) like the author of this article, but I agree with her on a number of her recommendations on how to attract an “eligble black man.” It’s really not that hard to find eligibles, it’s the keeping him part that can be a little tricky.
Please check out the article and tell me what you think of her advice.