Last week, I went on what on a pretty good date. I told the guy that I love Latin American food, so we ended up meeting at this cool Mexican/ Cuban spot. When I arrived he was already seated, he quickly stood up to greet me then took my umbrella and helped me take off my rain coat. I love chivalry and little things like that make a great impression.
The conversation was flowing and everything was cool. I remembered he told me he had “sons” in a previous conversation. I’ve never dated anyone with children but I’m trying to be more open because I realize the older I get the more likely it will be that I come across men with children from previous relationships. To feel him out, I asked if he had been married before. He said yes that he’d been married and then he said “in the spirit of full disclosure…” I knew after that whatever he said couldn’t be good. He told me that not only had he been married before, but he had been married and divorced twice. So when I asked him how old he was and he said 29, I was like you’re kidding right? I’ve never met a two-time divorcé who was only 29.
He seems like a great guy but it’s going to be hard for me to accept him knowing that he not only has kids but the fact that he’s been married more than once. I’d definitely be more accepting of a man who had been divorced once because it would show he was capable of making the commitment to getting married. But a man of his age (the same age as I am) who has had two unsuccessful marriages says something.
While I don’t want to count him out just yet, knowing about his past is a hard pill to swallow. I appreciate his honesty but it leads to too many questions in my mind. We’ll have to see about this one…